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Help someone who has been bereaved?

How can we help someone who has been bereaved?

What to say

Some of us do not have a personal experience of bereavement. We may struggle to know what to say to someone who has been bereaved, or be concerned that we may say something inappropriate and add to someone’s distress.

Just finding simple words such as, “I’m sorry” is far more comforting than saying nothing.

It can also be comforting to:

  • Acknowledge the death
  • Use the name of the person who has died
  • Listen, give opportunities to talk
  • Show interest and be empathic

Bereavement Kindness Toolkit

Our  Bereavement Kindness Toolkit has been developed to create awareness of how to help someone who has been bereaved. It shares essential tips which can help all of us become confident in supporting someone.

bereavement kindness toolkit

Information videos

How to support?

The simplest practical tasks can seem overwhelming in the early days of grief. A simple offer of practical support may be really appreciated. Specific offers of help with shopping, hanging out washing, help with chores, bringing a dish that can be frozen if not used immediately, making a cake, dropping in for a chat, or making a phone call can all be helpful.

You might offer to meet up, perhaps go for a walk together and aim to keep in touch on a regular basis.

Grief can be exhausting so it’s good to encourage the person to look after themselves as well as they can. This might include encouraging them to rest and to sleep and to eat as well and as healthily as they can. Sharing information on following the 5 Ways to Wellbeing may be helpful.

five ways to wellbeing poster

When death and bereavement are hard to understand

For those with a learning disability or who are caring for someone with a learning disability, help to break bad news is available.

Extra support is also available for anyone who finds pictures easier to understand than words.

More specialist support is also available from your community nurse. Or ask your GP if a referral to the Community Learning Disability Specialist Health Services at The Ridge Hill Centre might be beneficial.

What bereaved people would say if only they could talk

What bereaved people say flyer